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You have the right to feel pain and hurt when someone says or does something that hurts you, even unintentionally.

You have the right to brush off someone else's words and actions and not allow them to affect your life.

You have the right to lose respect for someone who hurts you.

You have the right to be empathetic, and choose to understand that their words don't necessarily mean who they are.

You have the right to believe that someone is bullying you out of sheer sadistic cruelty.

You have the right to believe that sometimes the meanest people are those who are the most hurt inside.

You have the right to stand up for yourself in the heat of the moment. To call out behaviour that hurts you or others. To point fingers and say "This is wrong. This needs to change."

You have the right to stand up for yourself days, weeks, months or years after the fact. Sometimes you graduate from school and you and that bully are both in your 30s. Maybe they've matured. Maybe they haven't. You have the right to say to them, "You bullied me years ago."

You have the right to your own safety. If you suspect violence or escalation from a bully, you have the right to stay silent. To run away and hide. To guage for yourself what your next move should be.

You have the right to tell whomever you want about your bullying. Your friends, your parents, your teachers, the police.

You have the right to stay silent.

Sometimes friends will gossip.
Sometimes parents tell you it's not such a big deal.
Sometimes teachers will tell you to just try harder to make friends.
Sometimes police will tell you that it's your own fault.

You have the right to call out school and work administration on verbal threats. If someone says "I'm going to kill you with a knife," You do not have to wait until violence occurs. You can call the police. You can demand safety. You do not have to treat threats as empty or meaningless.

You have the right to avoid police action if you feel they are untrustworthy or biased.

You have the right to online safety, and a space that is free from verbal and image harassment.

Free speech does not mean freedom to harass.

You have the right to block anyone you choose on any service you choose for any reason you choose. You are not a coward for doing so.

Free speech does not mean freedom from criticism.
You have the right to engage bullies and tell them to stop. You own your profiles and your spaces. Your youtube channel, your blog. You can moderate who gets their words seen by the world and who doesn't. You have the right to tell someone they are being hurtful, and that their words will make them unwelcome.

You have the right to give warnings.
You have the right to block without warning.

Free speech does not mean safety in anonymity.
You have the right to report someone's behaviour to site administration. You have the right to disable and delete anonymous comments. You have the right to record and gather evidence of bullying, to report threats and harassment to the police.

You have the right to talk about your experiences with bullying. You can write journals, news articles and make videos expressing your experiences and opinions.

You have the right to be constantly talking about bullying. You have the right to be obsessed with bullying. You have the right to never stop talking about bullying. You have the right to be "no fun anymore" because you're always talking about bullying. You have the right to take things too seriously.

You have the right to be who you are, online and in person. You have the right to your body, your gender, your sexuality, your religion, your background and your future.

You have the right to like the things and hobbies that you like. To wear the clothes you want. To speak and exist in a way that suits you.

You have the right to conceal yourself.

You have the right to keep your hobbies and interests secret. To never show a picture of your face online. You have the right to conceal your gender or sexuality or personality to keep yourself safe from harm. You have the right to alter the way you present yourself to the world for the sake of survival.

You have the right to transition between these two states. If being who you are openly is so painful, such a target on your back, you have the right to retreat to safety. You are not a coward. You are not less of a person for taking care of yourself.

You have the right to be a leader. Someone that people can look up to and take initiative from. You can spearhead anti-bullying campaigns. You can be proactive. You can contribute to change.

You have the right to defend yourself. You do not owe the world your help. You do not need to break yourself for the sake of others. You can follow. You can be silent. You are not a coward.

You have the right to introspection and reflection. You have the right to spend as much time as you want dwelling on your feelings of hurt. You have the right to imagine how your life would be different without bullying. You have the right to cry, publicly, or privately, over things that hurt you.

You have the right to have hope.
You have the right to feel hopeless.


You have the right to not smile, to not be happy, to not show the world a brave face when you are being hurt. You have the right to emotional honesty. No one can demand from you happiness when you are not happy. You are not a coward. You have the right not to keep your chin up.

You have the right to feel defeated, beaten and bruised. You have the right to feel loss and grief and hurt. You have the right to think that that bully has won, fully and utterly. You are not a coward.

You have the right to feel like you are bigger and better than that bully. You have the right to feel moral outrage. You have the right to feel like It Won't Get Better Unless You Make It Get Better.

You have the right to exist in a space that is physically and emotionally safe.
You have the right to demand that adults take responsibility and make it that way.

You have the right to be permanently damaged by bullying.
You have the right to let your experiences help you grow and become more as a human being.



Know your rights.



(This video will not work for some viewers (USA). It works in Canada. For US residents, try Netflix or Hulu.)
Bully: the Movie (2011) (documentary)
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AnnaGladue Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2013  Professional Writer
I came to look for reference and I found this. It is beautiful. I have been bullied, and have in turn bullied one who bullied me. It was years ago, but I wish I could say sorry to him, even if he never felt sorry for bullying me.
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charleyed Featured By Owner Sep 1, 2013
Thank you, Kxhara.

It has been many years since I was bullied, but I have been unable to forget most of it.

Thank you.........

Love
 
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AmbreeChristineSkye Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2013
"If someone is trying to bring you down it's only because you are above them." -Unknown-
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OmairaAndCairistiona Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Amen to that
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xLaramiex Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thank you.
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Michael-Sherman Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013

Paterson NJ has a whole population of people pulling their pants down and being excessively confrontational. They play the race card when addressed or just say to mind your own business.

 

This topic of decency is not so simple when the very characteristics you demonize here are thrown at you when they call everyone my nigger or the bitch.

 

"Precious", "Antoine Fisher" and other films address deeply attached behavioral traits that may be falsely attributed to culture, gender or "peer group".

 

John Lennon.."All we are saying...is give peace a chance"

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Michael-Sherman Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013

Life grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;

 

the courage to change the things I can;

 

and the wisdom to know the difference.

 

 

It is very hard to stay quite and live thru the pain. Sadly, freedom of speech doesn't do much for being serene. I hope you can find calming moments and safe places.

 

 

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RavenBaraq Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
This is really great.  Thanks! :)
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Ravynflight Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
*cough* Use the bully effect video instead, it shows the before and after of the kid who was in the bully project ^-^ Also as someone who has been bullied I believe you are correct, thank you for posting this ^-^
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thegroon Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
All the artists on DA get it...
The worst was getting punished, even hauled off by the police for being bullied.
And then having your parents sympathize with the bullies more than you.
And having your sister date the bullies.
Apparently the bullies were the victims and I was selfish for having been bullied. I guess I should have been more considerate.
Bull...shit.
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Lady-Lumiya Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2013  Hobbyist
wow man, that IS major bull s***, wth is up with the logic of some people!
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campestris Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you so much, Kxhara. It means a lot for me, really. I`ve always been bullied because of my age. I went to school earlier then others so used to be the youngest in the form. Some of my classmates thought the fact that I`m only three years younger is enough to hurt me.
But I managed to make best friends with others, anyway. :)
However, I strongly belive that offending somebody causes harm to the bully more than to the victim. So I just try to forgive anyone who tried to damage me and to live peacefully. Am I wrong?
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AardvarkEcho Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Professional Photographer
Sadly, the right to feel my feelings was something I had to discover, many long years after the instillation of the fact that I would be punished for expressing those feelings.

I was told I did not, in fact, have the right to be upset when I was disciplined. Thinking back on it, I half wonder what in the world that person was thinking; if I feel absolutely nothing, genuinely nothing, when I am being disciplined, then shouldn't I never learn to avoid discipline through failure to misbehave?

Wouldn't this cause me to be an even worse child than I was? It made no sense to me then, too, but for different reasons.

Now, I am a very pragmatic, practical, logical individual. I call a lot of people on their bullshit. It doesn't make me many friends, but it keeps me from being surrounded by ill-intentioned people.

Yes. You have every right to feel whatever it is you feel about whatever it was that happened to, in front of, or because of, you. 

What you do not have the right to do is assume you can get away with doing nothing about it and hope it will improve on its own. Proactivity keeps the world spinning; the old adage, "the only thing that needs to happen for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" is true in a number of ways. The only right you do not, and should not, ever have, is to do nothing.

But on that note, please, seek wisdom before choosing a kneejerk reaction.
-AE
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chronica00 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
Fight like its mortal kombat then the bully will learn :D
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Princess-Toast Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
:C I'm not really sure where 'being mean' becomes 'bullying'. But I've been friends with someone when I was smaller that constantly bossed me around, saying she was my friend, but she never meant it. I was just someone to vent her anger on.

I never left her until much later because of my low self esteem. I thought I deserved it, because that's how my father raised me to think. I couldn't go to school without people teasing me 'Are you going to cry? Are you going to cry?', and when I got home I just felt worse. I didn't have anybody to talk to.

Middle School I was suicidal, and that's when I found that I could put my emotions into artwork. Writing literature and drawing helped me get through everything. And finally I decided to ditch that 'friend' of mine. I went from the shy girl that cried in class, to a quiet girl that people were scared of.

I've got genuine friends now (I think they're genuine), and they all tell me that I'm scary. Joking around saying they're glad I'm their friend so they can get friendship discounts when I take over the world.

That 'friend' of mine really did change who I was. If it wasn't for her, I would probably still be shy and unable to talk to people. So I'm almost glad that I went through that, even if it was tough. C:
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SarcasticSeejay Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
I was bullied as a kid once. Kid was much bigger than me. So I smacked the guy with a chair. I got in a little trouble, but no one fucked with me after that. Matter of fact, I was friends with the kid after that. 

you know, just because someone is doing something that's their legal right doesn't make them any less of a whiny bitch who can't stand up for themselves.
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Skadoske Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student Digital Artist
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SerenaHarmonia Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
It means a lot... :) thanks!
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analillithbar Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I cannot tell you how very much this means to me. Wonderfully worded and with effective formatting.

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Strudel--Cutie4427 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013   Writer

You have the right to be who you are, online and in person. You have the right to your body, your gender, your sexuality, your religion, your background and your future.

 

That's where it really got me. that one line... There were other lines too, but that's the one line that really stood out for me. Thank you so much for making this!

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Zenoxen Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Sometimes teachers will tell you to just try harder to make friends. -> I heard that one from my parents....just nobody wanted to be my friend to avoid becomming a target.

Sometimes police will tell you that it's your own fault. -> In Portugal, police ignores you unless you got knifed and ended in the hospital.


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ReverieSummoner Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"I'm going to kill you with a knife," You do not have to wait until violence occurs."
Sadly in many countries you really must wait for the Violence to occur in order for the police to actually do something about it :( I wish I was exaggerating but I'm not, our justice is just that blind...
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SarcasticSeejay Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
What is the police gonna do? Arrest him for potential homicide? Get a weapon. Defend yourself.
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ReverieSummoner Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ah that's where things get interesting. You see in order for me to have a weapon (believe me I'd love one of my own) I would need a licence to carry and use it. So if I did get on my "other means" and if I ever had the bad luck of using it I may manage to defend myself but believe me I would get in a hell of a trouble by doing it...even if I was just trying to defending yourself. This is true and even with a legal weapon it would mean trouble for me.
And yes, I do believe that if there's prove of threatening a person should spend a few days locked up! the problem these days is that people don't suffer the consequences! People steal, threaten and bully but suffer hardly any consequences...this is quite sad.
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LimeGreenBunny Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
So let me get this straight: if you are threatened, the police don't care, if you defend yourself, you get in trouble with the police.  Sounds like the only way to have justice is to sit there and get knifed (and that isn't justice either!).  The world is upside-down.
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ReverieSummoner Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Precisely what I think...
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Michael-Sherman Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2013

minority report

 

 

 

thought police

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YautjaVasquez Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Student General Artist
 I was and still am bullied. There is just one way out..... Homicide.
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Ah, That's not true. Probably all of here have been bullied.  There's another way out: Patience, and a stubborn refusal to think of yourself as worthless. Those bullies will grow up and life will get tough for them too. Then they will be too busy for their foolishness. Hang in there. Bullying will change you, no doubt. It sucks. It hurts. However, it also can galvanize you and make you more resilient for what life hands you when you've grown up.

Resolve to not be like those bullies. Homicide simply makes you out to be a worse bully than the ones you already detest and simply confirms their lies. Compensate the other way: Solve injustice by Being kind and compassionate for the other people that you see getting bullied - to help them through the process. You'll all get stronger together.
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YautjaVasquez Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2013  Student General Artist
That is a good lie. I just can not believe this... It is just too simple. Life is not.
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Pirenja Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist

Thank you.

I've been bullied.

And I've also defended a friend from bullies.

It's hard.

But I'm glad someone out there knows.

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EstrangeloEdessa Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I don't know if it's because of where I live or who I hung out with or just being lucky, but I don't think I've really had much experience with bullying at all. I was definitely made fun of, for having freckles and not knowing how to dress right and things like that. And there was this one girl in third grade who really liked to rip off my Barbie's heads and throw them over the school's fence. And I was always the weird kid, and it took me a few years after moving to make friends. And the thing is, sitting here and typing it all out, it seems rather like I was bullied. But if you were to just ask me out of nowhere, I'd say no. I don't feel like a victim of bullying. I don't know if it hurt me then--it must have--but I don't feel hurt by it now. So it makes me wonder. 

Wow--I didn't expect this comment to go like that. Sorry for the rambling. So anyway, while I can't really personally connect to any of those things on the list, I have to thank you for putting it up here. These are all truths that needs to be spoken. Everyone has their own way of dealing with something horrible, and I don't think anybody should be blamed for it. If you disagree with the way somebody's handling something, then frankly, it's the bully's fault, not the victims. The victims have the right to their own feelings. 
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
It sounds like you've grown a healthy ability to not take the bullying personally. You see it as a character flaw in THEM and not YOU. That's good! Bullying is a childhood phenomenon and is probably just nature. Most of them grow out of it. If you don't respond with aggression what will happen is they will grow up and feel guilty for all that bad stuff they did to you.  Some of them will even find you later in life to apologize, and it'll make your jaw drop to the floor in astonishment.
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Matchbooked Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2013  Professional Interface Designer
Stuffed into lockers.

Held down by a dozen classmates and kicked and spit on.

Pushed and shoved around.

Liquid aluminum poured on me.

Iceballs (like a snowball, but made with packed-hard snow) thrown at my face from mere feet away.

A dozen+ times of my locker having been broken into, the contents destroyed and peed on.

I remember a case where, in between classes where we'd all shuffle about in the halls to get to the next one, I had been making my way to said class when I saw movement to my right. Was one of my bullies. They shoved me, hard, to the left, where I smashed into another girl and sent her tumbling to the floor after hitting the wall. Under threat of violence I confessed to shoving the girl, myself, and stood there in the office with her parents and the Principal and apologized, tears streaming down my face, for having been so mean to her --- though my only crime was that of selling myself completely out; the scapegoat for anyone.

I even paid bullies off, to not beat me up. Every birthday dollar given for most of my teens was used for this purpose. (I got beaten up anyhow)

Ah, high-school. :(
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SarcasticSeejay Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013
Your fault for not telling the truth.
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Sounds totally nasty.  Just rememeber High school is only 4 out of perhaps eighty years of your life. That's only five percent. You'll survive and it'll get better. Man, I wish I could write down all of the incredible adventures I've had since high school that I never would have dreamed of. You'll have yours too, but it depends totally on your tenacity and ability to bounce back from adversity. That's got to come from within you. I also had my parents support, and my faith which helped a lot.
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PewDiePieFan11 Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
i've been in america only for a year and i am from sweden and i've been bullied so much, mostly because of my accent, that i slowly am going mute, i wont answer teachers, other students, and i wont stick up for myself, i cant anymore, i barley even talk to my only two friends. i used to be very bubbly and happy, i would ignore when people bullied me or i would stand up for myself. i join campaigns on the internet because i know its to late for me to go back and i dont want other people to suffer what i am.
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Seraphsword-Seraphs Featured By Owner Oct 8, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Accents are fudging awesome. Those people are just jealous!
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PewDiePieFan11 Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Aww~ Thank you! ^^
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Seraphsword-Seraphs Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome! :) Seriously, though, accents are AWESOME.
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Strudel--Cutie4427 Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013   Writer

No, not your accent! That's terrible! I'll have you know that I LOVE accents! I really do! ((I'm actually looking for a Scandinavian accent for one of my characters, for when I get the show on TV, in fact)) ... You know, it's never too late to turn back. You might feel that way, but it isn't. You're here aren't you? You've survived the day, and you're still alive. That's already proved that you're still able to put up a fight. I know it's not much but if you can remember, every day you survive, you've already won part of the battle.

 

If you need to complain about anything, I'm always willing to listen, even though you don't really know me.

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PewDiePieFan11 Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
thank you, you are very nice and i will talk to you if i need to
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Strudel--Cutie4427 Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2013   Writer

((Ironically, I spent the week offline *facepalm*))

Okay :) Ooh I like your avatar picture. Did you draw that??

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PewDiePieFan11 Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
no actually my friend on here, she is awesome
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Strudel--Cutie4427 Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2013   Writer
I totally agree.
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Tychoaussie Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
You need help, now. Talk to the school counselor asap.

Be assured however, that when you get to college, everyone will ADORE your swedish accent!

Just treat high school like a job that's prepping you for the good stuff: Score the absolute best you can on every grade and score so that if you go to college, it'll be easier for you. Man, I cannot tell you the incredible joy and relief I experienced my first semester of college, and I discovered that nobody CARED that I was a geek.! They saw just me, for who I am. 

...and rely on those friends. Just make sure your best friends are real-life friends. Internet friends are nice, but not substitutes for real relationships. (as I look at my own clock)
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PewDiePieFan11 Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
thank you, i really hope that the people in collage like me, its hard to get used to it i guess.
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ValkyrieMoon Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2013  Student General Artist
"Free speech does not mean freedom to harass. 
You have the right to block anyone you choose on any service you choose for any reason you choose. You are not a coward for doing so."

Yeah I have noticed DA is pretty bad with bullying. I love this thanks so much for giving people like me hope. 

Never respond to them!
Block them!
Report them!

been their done that!

you should make one about art thieves! Thant goes hand in hand with bullying(happened to me)
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Chibi-Kryptonite Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank You.  
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