Paterson NJ has a whole population of people pulling their pants down and being excessively confrontational. They play the race card when addressed or just say to mind your own business.
This topic of decency is not so simple when the very characteristics you demonize here are thrown at you when they call everyone my nigger or the bitch.
"Precious", "Antoine Fisher" and other films address deeply attached behavioral traits that may be falsely attributed to culture, gender or "peer group".
John Lennon.."All we are saying...is give peace a chance"
Life grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.
It is very hard to stay quite and live thru the pain. Sadly, freedom of speech doesn't do much for being serene. I hope you can find calming moments and safe places.